Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Forgotten skills

Just a quick note to say thank you to Paul et al on Boards.ie for starting a poetry section. I remember writing stuff on the backs of books in secondary school - I loved English - Just hated the time spent in class.

Anways at the moment its gone 1am I'm sitting in pitch black in my living room (everyone else is gone to bed ages ago) I've been studying most of the night and am stoned on coffee and..well...more coffee.

In the space of the last twenty minutes I've posted two poems "out of thin air" on Boards. They show where I've come from in my head to where I am now...

The new me!

There I sat broken hearted,
Tried to speak and never started.
I opened mouth but nothing came out,
yet in my head my voice cried out.

Now I stand Now I've started
I've found my voice, the silence - departed.
and if I stammer - If I stop
I don't care - I'm **** hot!

Charlie - The poet I never knew !



Then and now

My entire body was burning
I could feel the flames
coursing my veins
as I tried to speak out
Lost words stalked my dreams
with classroom scenes and wispered voices

I took a turn - some brand new chances
to make a change - to make advances
I've turned my head, I've turned a corner.
new wisdom - I'm stronger.

Charlie Boswell

Monday, October 19, 2009

Practice - Just doing it!

I'm a lousy blogger! I know! I Blog when I remember that I have forgotten about blogging for a while!

Consistency is the key!
How do you make an effort to...make an effort? If you get what I mean. Getting my head straight now seems to be the easy piece! It’s being consistently good at keeping the physical side of my stammer in check is now the struggle!

I need help with a couple of things I am struggling with; the first is how do I exercise during the winter months? For the summer I used get up and either go for a walk or a good cycle before work most mornings, 6am - It was bright, sunny and for the most part dry. Even when I slept in I could go out for an hour after work. Now I get up and its dark, I get home - and it’s dark. I have an exercise bike but it’s not the same. Has anyone any good ideas on how I can turn this around??

The second thing is to do directly with using a technique to break out of a block. When it does happen - As I've said I can pretty much keep control of my "negative self" but when things do slip I need to be able - and confident that I can break out quickly and effectively every time - reboot - gather my thoughts and continue with what I was saying. I'm going to explore this a bit more over the coming days/weeks (and hopefully get my thoughts and yours) on how best to structure this.

Always..Thanks for reading this and a special thanks to my one new Follower!! hey I must be getting good at this blogging lark!

Charlie

Thursday, August 27, 2009

My Discovery.


Below is a brief summary of an article I read recently, It appeared in the Journal of Speech, Language and hearing Research. The title of the article is “An Experimental Clinical trial of a cognitive-behaviour therapy package for chronic stuttering.” For me, the article supports my frame of thinking that whatever the cause of my stammer may be, by tackling the psychological aspects of my “social phobia” This research, however ordinary it may be to the academic or medical world, the support it gives to my theory is having a profound affect on me...and my stammer.

Purpose: The aims of the present study were to (a) examine the rate of social phobia among adults who stutter, (b) study the effects of speech restructuring treatment on social anxiety, and (c) study the effects on anxiety and stuttering of a cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) package for social anxiety.

Method: Thirty-two adults with chronic stuttering were randomly allocated to receive either speech restructuring following a CBT package for social anxiety or speech restructuring alone. Data were obtained on a variety of speech and psychological measures at pre-treatment, post-CBT, postspeech restructuring, and 12 months

follow-up.

Results: Sixty percent of our cohorts were diagnosed with social phobia. Speech restructuring treatment alone had no impact on the social phobia of our cohort at 12 months follow-up. At follow-up, participants who had received CBT showed no social phobia and greater improvements than control participants on a range of psychological measures of anxiety and avoidance. However, the CBT package made no difference to the speech outcomes of those with social phobia.

Conclusion: The CBT treatment was associated with significant and sustained improvements in psychological functioning but did not improve fluency.

(Menzies Et Al, 2008 Journal of Speech, Language and hearing Research P1451)


For as long as I have stammered I have always had a fear or anxiety of various speaking situations, I wouldn’t dream of ordering in a restaurant or asking for something in a shop, Couldn’t say my name in class, and never spoke out in a group. In more recent years I began to gain more confidence and came “out of my shell” hugely, I went to college, Got a job, married and did all the normal things everyone did but I still had/have what I know as “social anxiety” The difference in the last year though is that I have slowly chipped away at this and grown hugely in confidence, so much so that I feel I am at a crossroads in my life, I am standing, looking back at where I have come from and deciding where I should go?


I have learned recently that to “decide” in Latin is to “cut off” to disregard every other bar one – the path you choose to take. For me it is like the end of the Castaway film with Tom Hanks, He’s in the middle of nowhere, a crossroads in front of him.


Do I continue to allow this “social anxiety” and my stammer control who am I, or do I choose not to stammer anymore? Mmmm tough choice!


I have realised something, I have always called my speech impediment a “stammer” others call it a “stutter” I have always subconsciously considered it as only the physical aspect of a block when I speak, the inability to get the words out. But I now realise, I now define my stammer in a much broader context. My stammer is the social anxiety I feel when I block. It is the anticipation, fear, anxiety, frustration, anger, resentment and downright hate I feel when I block.


In recent posts on this blog I have touched on this, the emotional side to my stammer but never in such a profound way for me. I now have a definition (to be refined no doubt) But I now know that for years I have been making a common mistake of trying to treat the physical aspect of my speech while for the most part ignoring the iceberg under the water!!


I did it recently when for a whole day, and a couple of days after I choose not to stammer, and from here on, from this day on, Thursday 27th August 2009 I am choosing to no longer allow myself to give into the negative thoughts and feelings I have when I block! To no longer “stammer” in the same why I have for years.


I have long held a belief that I started stammering after a teacher hit me when I was a young boy in school, I don’t think this was the case now, I was born with a speech impediment, a neurological disorder that causes me to block intermittently when I speak. The teacher (Mrs Barnes by the way) probably laid down the bedrock for my anxiety when I tried to speak in class and couldn’t.


From my reading of various books and listening to Anthony Robbins and other motivational speakers I have finally realised that it is I that have chosen to allow these negative feeling to continue all these years, Me blaming the teacher, school yard bullies and so on was a cop out. I’m not being hard on myself, I didn’t know, I couldn’t have had. Those around me, My parents, teachers and even the speech therapists - I now know that they did not fully understand my stammer, They couldn’t have.


I DO...TOMORROW IS A NEW DAY...YEEHAW!!


References

Ross G. Menzies Et Al: An Experimental Clinical Trial of a Cognitive-Behavior Therapy Package for Chronic Stuttering. Journal of Speech, Language, and Hearing Research Vol. 51 14511464 December 2008 D American Speech-Language-Hearing Association

Downloaded from: http://web.ebscohost.com.remote.library.dcu.ie/ehost/pdf?vid=2&hid=106&sid=39960084-e0fc-4f5c-b02c-84b60b02e178@sessionmgr11

On 27/08/09

PS . I'm not sure if people will be able to download the article referenced above as I have access to these through the college I attend. I can't upload it as it would be a breach of copyright but I can email if anyone is looking for it.

Monday, August 24, 2009

It takes work but it is possible

So, How have I been getting on? pretty good as it happens, at this point I definetly believe that my mental state has a lot to do with controling my stammer. Today for example, I had to go through my daily briefing in work and got a last minute presentation dropped on my desk, when I say last minute I mean 2 minutes before going into the room!

I had been feeling pretty good anyway and I flicked through the pages, and decided that this would be no trouble to speak through this stuff, So I did! LOL. I had stuff prepared outside this anyway and used a "grounding" technique to help me relax and keep control of the physical attributes of my stammer. I kept eye contact!! looked around the room nodded in self approvement and got a couple of smiles in return!

On another note I have noticed that alcohol definetly has a negative effect on my stammer. I went on the piss Friday night and although was confident and had a great time while I was out, the following morning I was tired, I wasn't in the humour to keep myself from getting into blocks and too tired to get out of them.? I do like the occasional drink and really enjoy going out with friends, But how do I negate the effects of a night on the beer?? probably a centuries old question!

Hey, I got my first comment of the year today!! Thanks Mark!! I Look forward to sharing ideas and experiences with you!

As always, Don't be shy, If you want to leave any feedback, There's no such thing as bad feedback.

Charlie

Thursday, August 13, 2009

I Decided NOT to stammer today

I've been listening to "Personal Power" again for the second or third time at this stage, trying to get as much as I can out of the program. I was listening to day two yesterday evening "Pain and Pleasure" when a thought suddenly hit me,

What if I could decide NOT to stammer!!
I sat down for about an hour or so and thought about this, Imagine it, Decide not to stammer, could it be that simple? surely not. Could I just decide to not take any notice of the negative thoughts and feelings? could I decide to use my Airflow technique without fail? Does it work that way? Could I decide to keep eye contact in a conversation like any other person?

I had so many questions, so many ideas about how, If this could work what would it mean? I'm still trying to figure this one out!

Let me tell you how my day went... I went to work, as part of the management team I had our usual morning meeting to get ready for, Stats and daily reports in hand in I went. The meeting was shorter than normal and before I could get my chance to do my briefing the GM said "OK that's it." At this point I'd normally give a mental sign, Thank God that I wasn't put under the usual pressure, not only to get work done but also that I didn't have to speak and risk stammering. But not today! "Andrew, I have a few things I need to go through.." and off I went.

I made phone calls, spoke to customers, colleagues all without the usual tense apprehension I normally carried with me into every conversation.

Don't get me wrong, I did stammer, I was definitely 100% more fluent.

I Just read out loud this blog to my wife, I decided not to stammer before I started and I read it, OUT LOUD.

Is this is my Epiphany.???

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

So..Where I am now - Know your emotions!


Its easy to notice that I'm not a seasoned blogger! I know I should be posing more often but to be honest there is so much I want to cover I just don't know where to start. So this is just a quick post.

Things I am focused on:
Listening to my emotions - learning to recognise an emotional signal and take action immediately to resolve what ever it is telling me.

Getting physically fit - I really believe that by getting physically fit I can control my breathing more, By toning up and using my stomach/abdomen muscles more I can use diaphramatic breathing more easily. I remember when I first learned this technique way back in speech therapy all those years ago I used be exhausted every day from using the technique, I think this was because I wasn't fit.

Sticking to my Massive action plan - This is difficult! I keep having to go back and look at my reasons for what I want, when I don't follow through on an action plan I know I didn't have a strong enough "must" to do it.

I've attached an image of a mind map I did on my emotions (based on the "personal power" CD by Anthony Robbins)

Friday, July 24, 2009

New Beginnings

Here I am - Again, I started this blog over a year ago and forgot about it for a while, I started to focus on my speech again about a year ago and forgot about it for a while...But now I'm back!

What's different? I hear you ask, well a lot really, I think it has taken me this long to figure out a strategy for tackling my issues. I've come to the conclusion that my stammer comes from a compounding of lots of issues over the years. Every set back I had compounded on the last, Every knock I took built on top of my fear, anxiety and every other negative emotion I had to do with my speech.

My strategy is a simple one: chunk down my speech issues into smaller pieces and tackle it piece by piece. The largest of these are my emotions, coming to terms with my negative states and learning to recognise the messages I get from these emotions. and then changing my state.

A lot of what I'm going to be blogging about is influenced by my reading of books by Stephen Covey, Tony Robbins and I cannot recommend enough that everybody reading this reads or listens to what these guys (among others) have to say.

Enough for now..More later. As always thanks for reading this and any feedback you have, good or bad is greatly received.